LH: Chapter Seven

A small excerpt from chapter 7,

The Residue Of Trauma

On the opposite spectrum neglect, a lack of praise and guidance often leads individuals to feeling undervalued as though their efforts and achievements are insignificant. This neglect can often create an aversion to effort. They don’t feel a reward or satisfaction for completing a task from the lack of positive feedback. For others the lack of guidance/feedback can leave an individual unable to discern how to approach challenges to discern what their next step is. In the absence of direction, it reinforces the idea that they must figure everything out alone. Taking on all of an unknown risk which leads to feeling overwhelmed or the need to withdraw. Or to recoil at the first sign that things aren’t going as expected. This lack of support during formative experiences can lead to chronic self-doubt, as one watches others succeed as they struggle to make decisions.